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[VT-XS]

If you live long enough, the day will come when you profoundly regret that you did not call your dying Grandfather
and try to make a connection whether you knew him or not. The ancestral connection will come to mean something in and of itself. It will be tied to any purpose that there is for your existence...once you've gained a broader perspective from living a few more years. I can almost guarantee you that.

And if it doesn't...God help you.  Kharma will bring it back around in some form or fashion.

[Gumbo]

woops there it is 

[RocknRoll]

Gabe,

If this is just a "stir the pot" thread that is a macabre attempt at humor, just make the visit and bring a pillow.

If you are serious, then KMA on this issue.  You have other less controversial and certainly more likable facets to your personality than to waste it on this crap!

[VT-XS]

Gabe,

If this is just a "stir the pot" thread that is a macabre attempt at humor, just make the visit and bring a pillow.

If you are serious, then KMA on this issue.  You have other less controversial and certainly more likable facets to your personality than to waste it on this crap!

Pete...

What's up fella? How are you?

It's so hard to tell where you stand on things sometimes. j/k
I haven't seen Gabe in while but for him, I think this is a real question. It's not one I'd put out on a motorcycle forum but he's made the mistake of thinking that this is a place where he can explore his inner most dilemmas.
...anyways, filtered through three glasses of wine I gave a real answer. Looks like you did too.


Ever get on the bike anymore?

[MRVTX]

Gabe, if he lives close, I would make the visit rather than the call.  It may be awkward at first, but I believe you'll make a lasting impression on him.  I love talking with senior citizens...you get a greater appreciation for what we have today.  Sometimes all they want/need is someone to talk to.

[Dusty]

Gabe,

My Dad was 54 and my Mom was 47 when I was born. I had one Grandmother that passed when I was in High School. I am the youngest of five kids. All I remember of family gatherings was old folks sitting around discussing who was sick, who was dieing or who had died. I was drug to more funerals than I care to try and count. By the time I was 20, I didn't want anything to do with old people or funerals. As luck would have it, both my parents had long drawn out illnesses and both were residents of nursing homes before they passed. Since I was the only one around, I got to deal with all that at the same time I was starting my own family. It truly taxed my marriage and with my Mom living with us prior to me having to give up and put her in a nursing home, my kids were exposed to some really gross stuff. Fortunately, they don't remember it. To this day I hate nursing homes and I refuse to go to funerals. I've heard they are to show sympathy for the living that are left behind. I don't agree, I believe they are for the people that regret that they didn't visit the person more before they died. I have seen the out pouring of "love". The well wishers who go by the house to console the grieving and bring more food than 10 families could ever eat. Leaving the family with even more work and worry, not to mention them being deprived of privacy after they have spent the better part of a week trying to deal with all the ceremonial whooplah.
My preference will be to pass while sitting on a mountain top and have the buzzards eat me and the varmints scatter my bones before they can stick me in the ground or at least I hope to get cremated and scattered in the wind.
One of my biggest regrets was not getting to know my Dad to the point where he would have been willing to share what it was like living through the roaring 20's and the depression. He was too busy working me like a slave and I was too busy trying to grow up and get away.
Call or go see the old man as awkward as that may be. You may or may not regret it. If you don't talk or go see him, you will never be able to change that part and you will have disappointed your Mom.  You will regret that some day. Just remember, it will be just as awkward for him. Show interest in him and what he has or had interest in. The barrier between ya'll will be gone in a matter of minutes.

Death is permanent, do it while you can.

Dusty

[Demon]

Pete... this is no joke

Jason, I can't go visit him since he lives in Costa Rica...

Dusty thanks for your input, it makes alot of sence...  I think I'm going to call him and just go with the flow...  I don't know him but I owe him that much.